The foremost symbol in the United States that represents independence and as well as freedom is our Flag. Created and sewn by Betsy Ross during the Revolutionary War it was clearly the symbol of Independence from the rule of Great Briton. In Part 1, we explored how driving is the first personal symbol of independence. Part 2 will look at the broad independence you get when you have your own place to call home. A person’s home is revered as the epitome of living the American Dream.
Whether an apartment, condo, townhouse, or single-family home, having your own place is another significant symbol of independence. In addition to being a symbol of independence it also signifies accomplishment, living the American dream. As in the driving example, many seniors self-regulate their living arrangements, by downsizing either due to medical, financial, or ease of use needs. Just as often, many seniors treasure their home, and dig their heels in a want to stay at all costs. That may be the only and home they have had as an adult. Homes create strong emotional as well as physical attachments. There are many ways to adapt their current home situation to meet a lot of the needs in the aging population. The driving force in decision making are personal safety specifically in the kitchen and the bathroom along with financial ability to sustain suitable housing long-term.
Costs for assisted living range from $4000.00 – $8000.00 per month. Working with a Certified Nurse Life Care Planner can help you determine the cost of care based on condition and life expectancy. A home assessment by a Nurse Care Coordinator can help determine alternatives that are available to maintain the current home setting and the local senior resources.
65 million Americans are serving as family caregivers. Bringing a parent into your home is also an option to the high cost of assisted living. Challenges arise based on a lifelong history of family dynamics and can be addressed and overcome by careful preparation. I brought my Mom in to live with me. It was early in the dementia diagnosis and she was still quite capable of caring for herself. I had my basement finished with a suite of rooms. My sisters and I recreated her home using all her own furniture, where it fit, and letting her pick out new things that would fit better. It was an adjustment for both of us, maintaining her dignity and giving her respect was at the forefront. She stayed with me until the time care where she needed more care than I could provide. There is usually a defining moment, mine was, I came back from the grocery store in preparation of an ice storm and she wasn’t in the house, yet the front door remained locked. I found her, hanging onto a branch on the side in her pajamas. I was one of the lucky ones that found her quickly.
Seniors with significant financial constraints, can go into Section 8 housing. Guidelines are state specific. Some Section 8 Senior housing has attendants. Additionally, if the person or their spouse served during war time in the US Armed Services they may be able to obtain VA Benefits of Aid and Attendant Care.
We respect the flag, our nation’s symbol of independence by standing up, saluting or placing our hand over our heart. We can offer respect to our elderly loved ones by standing up, having an open heart, and approaching their independence with respect and dignity. You are not alone, there are professionals that help you navigate the journey.